Well, this is my first full week in Florida...and as a wife…and as a full-time business owner. Oh, and as a mother of 2 squirrel-y hounds. I still can’t quite believe that this is my “new normal”, a permanent reality rather than a temporary visit. Without the constant cheerful re-assurance of my new husband, I don’t think I’d be adjusting very well.
What’s tough: We had a “thing” last night about internet. He can get by with a pay-as-you-go hub with a few gigs a month. Between marketing, networking, and my addiction to Netflix, I need constant high-speed access 24/7. As we used up the last of his gigs yesterday, it was time to re-asses, and he happily added a regular internet subscription so that I could do my work from home and not count the megabytes. BUT – for an woman who is used to making and spending her own money and answering only to God…it is SO hard to ask for something like that. It used to be that if I spent a little too much in one area in the budget, I was the only one who suffered, ate less, or stayed in on the weekend to compensate. Now if we are careless, he can’t go to the chiro or afford school books. AND…I’m no longer full-time at the church, so I’m shifting to working my business as my only line of income, and in the meantime I’m not contributing much to the house-hold. I know this is stereo-typically a guy problem, but I’m sure other ladies encounter this now too? Especially if you get married later in life?
What’s awesome: We have SO much fun together! There is something so sweet about
having taken a leap of faith to go from dating long-distance to married-in-person (as I call it). I’m constantly amazed by my husbands compassion, work-ethic, and determination to love and take care of me so well. We’re learning about each other exponentially every day, and our ability to communicate is our saving grace. We survived our first visit to Bed Bath and Beyond together with registry and gift-cards in hand. We are learning to share 1 car, take care of 2 dogs, and compromise on how we spend our leisure time. On Sunday, we went to the little church that meets at the University, most of the other soldiers from the station attend as well. Wow – Pentecostal/Baptist/African-American-Style/3hours of awesomeness. I cried, was blessed and prayed over, anointed with oil, and hugged with passion. Can’t wait to see what happens week 2 🙂
My favorite thing about being married is the
un-conditional attitude. There is not point in getting mad – we may as well talk it out because neither of us is going anywhere. The Bible says, “Perfect love casts out fear”. I’m feeling that these days, and it is truly beautiful. We constantly pray as a couple that this sweet season together will make us strong enough to pour that same kind of love out to others as we meet them in life. Wish us luck!
~ The Marry Team RZ