There is something specific about resting in the arms of the person who has vowed to spend the rest of their life with you. It is so comforting, it leaves the mind free of fears, and open to dream. What is it about marriage that makes us so united, how is it different than really super committed dating? I think it’s the leap.
When you get married, you don’t get to watch the movie of your life together play out in front of you and then decide, “yes, I’d like to have that. ” We can never know what life holds in store for us alone, and even less so once joined with a partner who brings their own qualities, ideas and dreams into the equation. Yet for those who are willing, the actual act of saying those vows is taking a leap of faith together, into a new life that is unknown…. The unknown is always scary, but like skydiving, going to war, or getting through college, there are adventurers in life that bond 2 people just because they got though it together.
I think the leap of marriage is in itself a bonding experience that helps you to face the scary unknowns. When life gets tough, or throws you a curve, the hope is that you will be strong enough to look back to your wedding day and say, “we took that leap together, we are floating through thin air with each other, together we can find firm ground again.”
There will be other leaps throughout life that continue to bond you if you let them…but they can also tear you apart. It is our choices in these situations, our ability to put the others needs first while still expressing our own, to be slow to anger and quick to forgive, that determines whether you will be glued tighter on the other side. Leaping into having kids together – another act of faith. Taking a jump to move to a new place that your spouse feels better about than you do. Re-arranging your career to make room for your partner, your family. What about that leap into a crazy vacation that seems totally impractical but is probably exactly what you both need?
Yes, experiences are what unite people, and marriage is the first of many leaps of faith that can build a life un-imagined. Here’s to love, and here’s to leaping.